I’ve waited. . . . hoped. . . . prayed. No one is filling these shoes! Now what?
What if you work hard, even for years, and you still don’t find a spouse? When do you give up hope of marriage? When do you give up your dreams? Is it ever right to compromise your standards? What if you turn 30 (or older) and you still haven’t found your spouse? Does God care – really? Do you trust His intentions toward you? Suddenly, the “waiting for a spouse” issue has turned into a “do I trust God” issue.
So, can you really trust God? Does He know how lonely you feel sometimes? Is He aware how hard you’ve worked to remain faithful? How can God make beautiful promises about having “plans for you, not to harm you, to give you a future and a hope” (Jer. 29:11) and leave you hanging with no life partner in sight?! Perhaps you’ve wondered – “are any quality options left on the globe?” How did “so and so” find such a lovely spouse? So many questions! Most people live in their questions.
Even if you aren’t finding your spouse yet, God is doing something in your life. God is filled with holiness and mystery. He is alive and well, working in the human timeline your life is connected to. God’s love for you does not change. It is always: very strong, very deep, very rich, very involved in every life issue and detail. Yes, He is very aware, very engaged, very caring, very skillfully weaving your life into His plan.
However, only certain people discover these truths about God. Only some live in His joy and peace. Only some “run in the path of Your commands, for You have set my heart free.” (Ps. 119:32) You were created for freedom. Does your heart run in God’s paths of freedom? Do you obey His commands with such intentional faith that you are truly free? Content?
Perhaps the questions to ask in this matter are more along these lines:
- Do I still believe God is good and loving toward me?
- Does God have a plan for my life: not to harm me, but to prosper me and give me hope?
- Do I accept God’s plan, even if it is different than I wanted?
- Is my view of God congruent with what Scripture says about Him?
AND THE CRITICAL QUESTION ABOUT BECOMING A DESIGNER PARTNER:
- Do I accept God’s proposal to be His Bride? His Beloved?
Part 2 mentions Rom. 5:3-4 – how suffering helps you grow to be like Jesus and to have hope. Let’s add Verse 5. “And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out His love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom He has given us.” What does this verse mean?
“Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Ps. 37:4) By deciding to delight your inner heart in the Lord, you actually begin to define the word “delight.” God knows He is the very best thing for you. Somehow, He is able to “without anything other than Himself meet and overflow the deepest demands of your total nature, mysterious and deep as that nature is.” (A.W.Tozer, The Pursuit of God) The more you delight in the Lord, the more your hope grows. Jesus IS hope!
The goal of this life is not to become married. It is to know and love God. No person completes or delights you like God. Don’t give up your dreams and hopes. Keep working to be a quality person. Keep trusting God for His good plan for your life. But don’t let hopes or dreams become a god.
Enter God’s throne room. Pour out your heart to Him. Then have confidence He has heard you and is already working to accomplish His Will in your life. His desire is that you be married in your heart to Him, first. When you prefer God over all else, everything else pales in comparison to Him. Suddenly, you have perspective! He has made you His Beloved.
Now, those are some shoes to fill!
P.S. I thought I was done with this post. . . . but the Lord is pressing on my heart to include a Scripture – – –
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